Self-conceit

 

Quite often you can hear such a characteristic in relation to another person: "Yes, he has an overestimated conceit! What is he like anyway? He has an arrogant personality."

What does high self-conceit mean and what signs of excessive self-conceit can be distinguished? How can you change your life if people around you consider your overblown ego to be a huge disadvantage?

What is self-conceit?

Self-conceit is an overestimated opinion of a person in relation to himself, his actions, actions, and merits. Great self-conceit forces a person to impose this opinion of himself on others, convince others of his own importance, assert himself at the expense of others, receive approval, praise, and praise. Self-conceit does not touch another person's personal boundaries. Therefore, a person with built-up boundaries cannot have an overestimated conceit, which means that he adequately evaluates his own importance.

Self-conceit is the opposite quality of self-esteem. If a person has self-respect, then he is confident in his abilities, he is convinced of his own importance, that is, he himself believes that he is strong, capable, successful. And he does not need to receive confirmation of this belief from others. And excessive self-conceit is the desire to convince others of their uniqueness, "coolness", success, and importance. This is a negative quality that is fraught with hidden, and sometimes open aggression. That is, the individual "forcibly" imposes his own importance, touching other people's personal boundaries. Important! Violated personal boundaries affect a person's self-esteem, force them to prove, impose, and aggressively demonstrate their importance. This condition creates an inadequate conceit.

Why inappropriate behavior is formed

Arrogant self-conceit plays a bad "joke" with a person - he considers himself better than others, may behave inappropriately, feel superior, complacent. This behavior causes unpleasant feelings in other people, but the desire to assert himself is so strong that he does not notice the discontent in his address. Excessively high self-esteem is formed under the influence of the following factors: - his own worldview and confidence that everyone owes him and only he knows how to act and what is best for others.

- the authoritative opinion of individual people (parents, relatives, friends, etc.) of the cultural environment,

- the "fashion" for status, propaganda of the division of the population into poor and rich education and ideological factors of education

- physical differences from others (injury, mutilation, lack)

Signs of high self-esteem

Inadequate behavior is manifested in humans in the form of a number of characteristic features. The behavior becomes defiant, and the attitude towards others is translated through the prism of "I am the king, and all of you are nobody." Also, self-conceit can be seen by: - assertive and "hubalistic" communication - a disturbed balance between what an individual gives and what he takes - violated personal boundaries - lack of empathy and empathy - comparing and evaluating others in a negative way - the desire to gain attention - an acute, almost painful attitude towards criticism - the feeling that everyone owes him

How to overcome arrogance and arrogance

If you want to change the quality of your life, become more open, friendly, and increase your own self-esteem, then you need to start working on yourself. First of all, you should change your behavior. Learn to listen to and respect other people's opinions. To remove arrogance, one must respect others without regard for their status, wealth, attributes of power, position, etc.

Learn to take care of others. But do not "do good" by force, but rather ask for the type of help, take into account the interests of the one you want to take care of.

Allow yourself and others to make mistakes. There are no perfect people around you and you are not perfect yourself. Anyone can make a mistake, and it's important to know how to fix it.

Do not show off your strengths, do not seek praise through a demonstration of your capabilities. Bragging is not the best quality. It causes disgust, contempt and disappointment of your person from others.

Love yourself. Start working on your own self-esteem, but don't overdo it and become narcissistic egoists.

Get out of the habit of competing. Improve yourself, become the best version of yourself, but don't compete with others. Your biggest rival is yourself.

Impenetrable people with inflated self-esteem but low self-esteem do their best to convince others of their exclusivity and superiority. Often this pretended "coolness" looks like a cheap show-off, because in reality the individual is nothing. They look stupid when they are arrogant, aggressive for no apparent reason, assert themselves at the expense of others and lose self-respect. It is often said about such people that they are "empty" - except that the individual himself devalues others in order to look more successful against their background.