Women's Solidarity

Once again, I read an outraged comment: "Where is women's solidarity?" and I thought, "Where is it really?" and "What is it anyway?" I know the solidarity of the workers. And the women's day on March 8 appeared as a day of solidarity of women in the struggle for women's rights and emancipation. But the comment doesn't seem to be quite about that. Although…

Speaking about the topic of women's solidarity, we are talking about relationships between women, often between strangers. The theme of women's solidarity is like a complex puzzle consisting of many interrelated elements: support, competition, personal beliefs and public expectations. The question of whether it really exists causes heated discussions, especially when it comes to difficult and painful situations. For example, when a woman takes her husband away from the family. This sensitive context will allow us to consider the versatility of women's solidarity and understand what it represents. Ideally, women's solidarity is a sense of community and support between women when they have similar life experiences, overcome common problems, and strive for equality. This is not a blind acceptance of any position taken by a woman, but rather a willingness for empathy, mutual help and respect, even in the presence of disagreements. As well as the recognition that women often face the same social and gender issues.

"She took her husband away from the family": a test of strength

The comments I wrote about at the very beginning are about this. It is precisely situations where a woman causes the breakdown of a family that put the concept of women's solidarity to the test. Reactions range from furious condemnation to silent incomprehension. Often, society puts all the blame on the "estranged woman", ignoring the responsibility of the man who, in fact, decided to leave the family. This is where the most difficult elements of the puzzle come into play. On the one hand, the instinctive protection of "one's own" is triggered – a wife, mother, friend, just a woman experiencing pain and betrayal. Naturally, there is a desire to support her, express sympathy and condemn the actions that caused her suffering. On the other hand, voices calling for a more objective view of the situation are becoming louder. After all, often the so-called estranged woman hides a woman who herself may be a victim of deception, manipulation, or simply unhappy in her own relationship. Judging without trying to understand the motives and circumstances can be unfair and will only make the situation worse. Female solidarity in such a story is understood as the unconditional acceptance of the prohibition "do not covet." Or covet, but do not encroach on the boundaries of someone else's family.

Arguments "against" solidarity with a "separatist" in such situations:

- Violation of moral principles. Many people believe that the destruction of a family is an unacceptable act, contrary to generally accepted moral norms, and therefore solidarity with a woman who acted in this way is impossible.

- Empathy for the injured party. The pain and suffering of a woman who has lost her husband evokes a natural empathy that overshadows any possible arguments in favor of a "separation woman." - Fear and distrust. The fear of being in a similar situation makes some women distance themselves from the "culprit," fearing that the same thing could happen to them.

The arguments for the need for a broader view: - Removing stigma and condemnation. The endless condemnation of the "estranged woman" only aggravates the situation and does not allow us to see the deeper reasons that led to the breakup of the relationship. - Understanding motivation. Trying to understand the motives of a woman who has entered into a relationship with a married man can help avoid similar situations in the future. - Support in a difficult situation. Sometimes a woman caught in the middle of a scandal needs support and help herself, especially if she is being bullied and condemned. So is female solidarity appropriate in this difficult situation? And what kind of solidarity — with whom and with whom? There is no definite answer. In this case, solidarity does not manifest itself in automatic support, but in a conscious choice – to try to understand what is happening more deeply, not to label and provide support to those who need it, regardless of which side of the barricades they find themselves on. True female solidarity does not consist in justifying certain offenses, but in creating a space for honest and open dialogue, where every woman can be heard and understood, even if her choice seems wrong to us. It's a call for empathy, compassion, and respect, when women can help each other instead of competing and judging.

Everyone decides for themselves how to react to such situations. But it is important to remember that sweeping condemnation will not solve the problem, but will only worsen it. The true power of women's solidarity is shown in the ability to look at the world broadly, with empathy and a desire for understanding, even in the most difficult and contradictory situations.

Audio, visual, kinesthetic and digital

 

Did you know that the phrase "Women love with their ears, men with their eyes" is about types of modality unrelated to gender? The world is divided into those who perceive reality visually, audibly, sensually or logically. What are the differences and how does it affect life?

What are the types of perception (modality)?

Each person has their own main way of perceiving information: visual, auditory, tactile or logical. From birth, we rely more on one of these channels. In psychology, this is called the modality of perception. Visuals: the world as a comic strip

If you are a visual artist, your world is a living, constantly changing picture. And your brain is a sensitive camera that quickly processes everything it sees. Let's see how this manifests itself in different areas of life and what is worth considering. In communication: you feel people without words

How it manifests itself: you perfectly understand body language - gestures and facial expressions. You can easily use drawings, diagrams, and emoticons to explain something. You remember faces perfectly as vivid photographs, but the name (if you haven't seen it written) may be forgotten. You feel people well, without words. What to consider: expressing thoughts verbally can be more difficult than showing or writing. You depend on what you see. If you are a visual artist, actively use gestures, drawings, photos, mind maps - this way you will be better understood. And if you are communicating with a visual artist, you should know that visual is the most important thing for him.

In school and work: create and notice the details

How it manifests itself: ideas are born easily. You work great with graphics, design, and creating presentations, making them vivid and memorable. You notice the smallest details and appreciate beauty in everything from paperwork to desktop order. They are very good at creative tasks and bring everything to perfection. What to consider: large amounts of text quickly tire, and too many different pictures or details around distract attention. You definitely need to see the task or instruction in order to understand it, because abstract information is difficult to memorize. If you are a visual artist, break down the information into blocks, use colors and schemes. If you are giving a task to a visual artist, it is better to show or draw a diagram — this will help him to understand everything faster.

In a relationship: showing feelings

How it manifests itself: it is important to show care and love, not just talk about it. You easily find a common language with the help of a glance, touch, smile. You intuitively understand the mood of people by their behavior. And beauty and a pleasant atmosphere are important in everything — from the appearance of a partner to the environment around them. What to consider: sometimes you can think of something by misinterpreting other people's non-verbal signals. People who do not use gestures or visual cues in communication may seem incomprehensible, as if their words are devoid of life. Remember: not everyone "reads" gestures the way you do. Try to speak your feelings out loud, even if it seems that everything is already visible. And specify what the signals of others mean if in doubt.

In everyday life: your house is your reflection

How it manifests itself: you appreciate beauty and harmony. You know how to create comfort around yourself, turn a space into a stylish and comfortable place. Your home is an extension of yourself, an environment that provides energy and inspiration. What to consider: clutter is frustrating and makes it difficult to concentrate — it literally "hurts" the eye. Therefore, maintaining order is not just about cleanliness, but also a guarantee of peace of mind and comfort. Visual artists are people with powerful visual thinking. They see the world in a brighter and more detailed way, which makes them more creative and attentive. But an excess of vivid impressions can be overwhelming. It is important to keep in mind the balance and be able to "tune out" visual noise.

An example of an ideal visual

Sherlock Holmes will notice a speck of dust on you, which will tell you your whole biography even before you greet him. Leonardo da Vinci saw and depicted the world in such detail that his drawings and drawings are amazing after hundreds of years. Audials: the world as a concert

The auditory captures not only the words, but also their subtle coloring — a tremor in the voice, a barely noticeable pause, a special timbre. If you recognize yourself in this, sounds are the key to understanding, then most likely you are an audial. Let's figure out how this feature manifests itself in life and what you should pay attention to. In communication: you hear more than just words

How it manifests itself: you subtly feel the intonation, timbre of the voice and the peculiarities of the interlocutor's speech. You can easily understand a person's mood even by pausing in a conversation. They can listen to music, audiobooks, and podcasts for hours. You are able to convince and inspire, deftly using the power of your voice and intonation. You hear things that others might miss. What to consider: it's hard to concentrate when there's a lot of noise around. Visual information is perceived much worse than audio information. You can easily miss something important if it wasn't said out loud. Communicating with people who speak softly or indistinctly is often annoying. If you are an audial, try to choose quiet places for important conversations. When communicating with an audience, speak clearly and loudly.

In school and work: easy to memorize by ear

How it manifests itself: You work well with audio materials, you can create cool oral projects, and give presentations in public. A good sense of rhythm helps to organize the work, perhaps even with the help of music. What to consider: working with a large amount of text can be tedious. Silence is necessary for concentration, any noise is very distracting. It is more difficult to memorize visual information (pictures, diagrams). If you're giving an auditory assignment, say it out loud, not just show it. In a relationship: do you hear how people feel about you

How it manifests itself: you appreciate sincerity and openness in conversation, you feel any falseness in the other person's voice. It is easy to understand what a person is experiencing by his speech. Audios are excellent conversationalists, as they are able not only to listen, but also to hear, which is important in any relationship. What to consider: it can be difficult to understand people who don't know how to express emotions in a voice. You are sensitive to harsh or too loud sounds in conversation. And if there's a lot of noise around, you can switch off altogether and stop hearing the other person. Remember that not everyone expresses themselves the way you do. If it's too noisy, feel free to say so.

In everyday life: your personal world of sounds

How it shows up: you value peace of mind. Music and pleasant sounds help you relax and concentrate. What to consider: noise can be very annoying. Complete silence is needed for a good rest. And you also easily forget where the keys or any other thing are when you don't say out loud where you put them. Understanding the world is largely based on what you hear. For the audial, the world "sounds".

An example of an ideal auditory

Matt Murdock (Marvel comics character "Daredevil") — hears a kettle boiling three blocks away. Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart — noticed music everywhere, even in the creaking of doors. Kinesthetics: the world as a sensation

If it is important for you to experience, try, and experience everything for yourself, then most likely you are a kinesthetic. Your brain is a real sensory center that analyzes every touch, movement, temperature, and comfort level. In communication: do you feel people

How it manifests itself: It's like you're "reading" people through their movements and body signals—gestures, facial expressions, body position. Close contact is not about distance, but about emotional intimacy, which is often expressed through touch. It is important for you to feel emotions, and you can easily recognize them in others. And you express your own openly, often through actions or physical intimacy. Hugs and touches are the natural language of love and support. What to consider: communication at a distance, where there is no way to feel a person, is difficult. Online correspondence or video calls, devoid of vivid sensations, seem incomplete or even tedious. You are sensitive to how you are touched. It can be unpleasant from strangers, but you are in dire need of touching loved ones. If you are a kinesthetic, be aware of your need for physical contact and feel free to express it. When communicating from a distance, try to use ways that give more sensations — for example, a live meeting whenever possible.

In school and work: learn by doing

How it manifests itself: you remember better when you touch, assemble, disassemble, move, or experiment. Practical exercises, master classes, project work to see and feel the result of your work — this is your element. You are well-versed in space and easily find your way, as if feeling it. What to consider: long lectures or reading dry theory quickly tire. Long sedentary work can be a real torture - breaks are vital to stretch and move around. Abstract ideas that are not supported by experience or action are difficult to come by. If you are a kinesthetist, look for opportunities for hands-on learning and movement. When you give a kinesthetic a task, give him the opportunity to "touch" or do part of the task so that he understands better.

In a relationship: do you feel love with your whole being

How it manifests itself: emotional connection through touching, hugging, and kissing is of great importance. You value not only words, but also the way a person holds your hand and hugs you. Trust is a feeling of security and comfort around you. It is vital to feel love and support, not just to hear about it. What to consider: It can be difficult with those who avoid touching or physical intimacy. Their lack can cause feelings of loneliness, insecurity, and discomfort.

In everyday life: comfort man

How it manifests itself: you appreciate real comfort, pay attention to the texture of clothes, the softness of the bed, the taste of food - everything that can be felt. Nature, active sports, physical work — this is what gives new sensations and energizes. What to consider: uncomfortable in cramped or poorly organized spaces. Kinesthetics are sensitive to temperature and to any tactile sensations. It is important to create the most pleasant physical environment around you. Remember that everyone has their own love language, and not everyone shows feelings through touch. It is important to talk about your needs so that your partner understands how important it is for you to feel his closeness.

An example of an ideal kinesthetic

Forrest Gump - when he doesn't understand something, he just starts doing it (usually running). Michael Jordan - felt the ring, the basketball, and gravity on a supernatural level. Being a kinesthetic means living and experiencing everything from beginning to end. To feel good, work effectively and have a good rest, you need to move more and experience vivid emotions.

Digitals: the world as a system

If you are trying to understand everything, sort it out, see the cause-effect relationships and logic in everything that happens, then most likely you are a digital. In communication: value clarity and order

How it manifests itself: only clarity and structure are important — facts, logical arguments and specific data. You are excellent at analyzing information, seeing cause-and-effect relationships, and are able to plan a conversation, bringing it to the point. What to consider: it is difficult to understand emotional statements if they are not supported by facts or logic. Too many unrelated details or an excess of emotion in a conversation can be confusing. If you are a digital, sometimes try to translate your thoughts into more understandable forms for others. And if you communicate with a digital, speak to the point, without unnecessary "water" and hints.

In school and work: build effective models

How it manifests itself: you can easily work with information if it is presented in the form of diagrams, tables, graphs. You can quickly grasp the essence of complex information and build a logical, understandable model from it. You are purposeful and systematic in your work, you plan and organize the workflow perfectly. What to consider: it is difficult to work with a large amount of disparate information. Memorizing facts without understanding their place in the general system is also not easy. Sometimes you can focus too much on the small details, missing the big picture. If you are a digital, always try to look for logic and structure, even where they are not immediately visible. When you give a task to a digital, explain the purpose, the general logic of the process and the place of a person in a large system.

In a relationship: value reliability and understanding

How it manifests itself: honesty, openness and logic in relationships are important. You are able to build long-term and sustainable relationships based on mutual understanding and respect. You can solve problems calmly and logically, without unnecessary emotional outbursts, which helps to avoid unnecessary conflicts. What to consider: it is difficult to express feelings, to speak about them directly. Because of this, you may seem cold and distant, even if you feel something completely different in your heart.

Remember that other people show emotions in different ways. Try to find your own ways to show your feelings - perhaps through specific actions, help, or simply explaining your logic of caring.

In everyday life: your world is an order

How it shows up: you like to be organized in everything. You know how to plan your day perfectly and use your time effectively. You always know where everything is, and you can quickly find the right thing. Your life is a reflection of your inner need for clarity and control. What to consider: you may be too demanding of yourself and others in matters of order. Unexpected situations or changes in plans can cause discomfort. Chaos or disorder is very annoying, as it disrupts the usual system. Try to accept that not everything in life can be planned, and sometimes small deviations from order are normal. You are someone who is looking for a principle, a structure, an algorithm in everything, trying to understand how it works and why. Clarity and understanding of the system is the foundation of inner peace and effective living.

An example of an ideal digital

Mr. Spock ("Star Trek") - prefers logic to all these "feelings" of yours and proves why it is 99.8% more rational. Elon Musk - all his plans for colonizing Mars are based on precise calculations and clear algorithms.

So, we have figured out the main differences between the perception of audials, visuals, kinesthetics and digital. The concept of such separation became widely known in the USA in the 1970s. It was actively promoted by Richard Bandler and John Grinder, the founders of neuro—linguistic programming (NLP). The digital type appeared later in the framework of the same doctrine. It is important to understand: These are not strict scientific classifications, but rather practical guidelines. Pure types are rare. In one person, one channel simply prevails. Understanding this is the key to your personal effectiveness and a more harmonious life. Do you think it will help you open new doors in self-discovery and communication?