11 Ways to Find Common Interests, even if You and Your Partner are Completely Different

 

Relationships are formed when there are common interests. And if there aren't any? We need to work on making them appear.

When a relationship is built on passion, two people rarely pay attention to each other's interests. But when the butterflies in your stomach stop fluttering, it suddenly turns out that you love romantic comedies on the big screen, and he hates going to the movies. You're reading The Mysterious Story of Billy Milligan, and he's reading the football news. And you want to go on vacation to the sea, and he wants to go to the mountains. That's when you realize that there are no common interests between you. But this is not a reason to end a relationship.

1. Get to know yourself first

Before looking for common ground with a partner, do the most important thing — get to know yourself. What would you like to get in a relationship? What are you ready to give to your loved one? It is important to define the "normality framework" for your relationship — what is acceptable to you and what you will never put up with. 2. Share a hobby with your partner

Find out what your partner is interested in. Try to share his passion and understand what makes him so excited. It's probably his favorite activity, and you'll like it. It's not necessary to play football, sometimes it's enough to find out the names of the players of his favorite team and watch the match together. Be sure to tell us about what you are interested in. The main thing is that your desire to share each other's hobbies should be voluntary and mutual. If you don't like it, don't do it, if something doesn't suit your partner, don't force it. 3.Try new things together

If your interests don't match what you're already doing, try something new. Have you ever gone go-karting? Go together! Have you ever flown in an air tube? Sign up together. Or maybe you both dreamed of going to the pottery workshop or playing airsoft? It's a great reason to invite each other to classes.

4. Diversify your intimate life

This item is for a relaxed couple or those who have been together for a long time. I advise each of the partners to tell us what they like or would like in intimacy. Listen to each other and try to bring variety to your sex life. The main condition is that you both should be comfortable. If you don't like something, feel free to refuse. This is normal! 5. Add romance to your daily routine

Remember your first date. Did it happen in a restaurant? Or maybe you went to the cinema? Repeat this day! It contains a powerful resource that will allow you to relive forgotten emotions and become closer to each other. Feel what you were like before the relationship. When you leave for work, leave a note to your loved one with tender words. Even if you're married and living together now. Be alone and add romance to your life. 6. Tell us about your desires

Use the "I want to be with you" technique. To do this, stay alone with your loved one in a cozy atmosphere. Let each of you write down your ideas and fantasies on a piece of paper, starting with the phrase "I want to go with you...." For example, to sail around the world, cook Italian pasta or get a dog. It could be anything! Then share these ideas with each other and, perhaps, something from your list will interest your partner, and you from his. You will be able to implement this in the near future or plan it as a common goal.

7. Create your own traditions

To feel the unity in a couple, create your own traditions. For example, arrange with your partner that you prepare a surprise for each other once a week. It can be anything: horseback riding, a picnic in the park, a relaxing massage or a delicious homemade dinner. You don't have to spend a lot of money, connect your imagination and everything will definitely work out. 8. Pay attention to your eating habits

If you like cooking, or you and your partner like to eat delicious food, use this to diversify your relationship. Find interesting recipes and cook them together. Or choose a restaurant based on your overall taste preferences. 9. Look for compromises

If there are few common interests, it is important not to resort to coercion, but to maintain respect for each other. Make an agreement that you spend one evening the way your partner wants you to, and the second evening the way you feel comfortable. Such compromises allow you to open up and maintain intimacy in a couple. 10. Spend time with your friends

If you have mutual friends, this is a great opportunity to have fun together. Organize a joint event. It can be a mafia game, a trip to the country or a boat trip. If there are no mutual friends yet, don't worry, come up with an excuse and invite each other's loved ones. 11. Respect and support each other

If it is difficult to find common ground, check if there is enough respect and support in your couple. Don't devalue a hobby with sarcastic comments like "what kind of musician are you, you're just strumming the guitar." Don't speak the language of claims and accusations. Choose the warmest and tenderest words to support your loved one. I am sure you will be able to find understanding and establish a connection with your beloved!