A person's internal dialogue forms the so-called mindset. A state of mind is a state of readiness to think, evaluate, comprehend and experience each specific situation in a certain way. The mindset is expressed in the willingness to use a person's available resources in a certain way to overcome difficulties encountered in test situations. An example of a mindset may be a state of optimism or pessimism, indifference or interest, acceptance or distrust, activity or passivity, etc. If we have an optimistic mindset towards any difficulties, then we remain confident in our own abilities, our imagination draws us a happy solution to these difficulties, we have constructive ideas about ways to achieve the best results, and we continue to live through test situations of their state of personal strength. In the case of a pessimistic mindset, the opposite is true: pessimistic ideas deprive us of prospects and strength. The same is true for any alternatives that characterize a particular mindset. A mental attitude is an evaluative and emotional state of a person that reflects the meaning of a particular situation. And it is the internal dialogue as a specific type of thinking that "develops certain ideas" that is directly responsible for our state of mind. Here such a chain can be traced: "emerging difficulty" - "evaluative internal dialogue" - "meaning" - "mindset". The mindset, in turn, determines the nature of the perception of the situation and we enter the so-called "vicious circle". Breaking this vicious circle is possible only through making adjustments to our own internal dialogue. This is the process of managing one's own thinking - thinking about thinking. To manage your internal dialogue, it is important to realize the nature of the ideas that are "scrolling" in this dialogue. It is these ideas - certain conclusions that are extremely important to a person and therefore emotionally significant to him - that we actualize in an internal dialogue when encountering difficulties. And it is these ideas, conclusions, beliefs about the causes, the nature of what is happening, the consequences, the possibilities, their own self-worth, etc. - they make up the semantic side, give us meaning and a certain vision of the situation. These ideas-conclusions are the results of inferences. Strictly speaking, the internal dialogue is precisely a continuous process of reasoning, comparison and evaluation - that is, a system of conclusions. The conclusions of the internal dialogue are intended to answer relevant key questions in order to gain certainty on these issues (to navigate difficult situations for oneself, to find meaning) and to make the necessary decisions in these situations. At the same time, the reliability of these conclusions does not matter in principle, since their main task is to create a subjective state of certainty, understanding and meaningfulness of the situation. For example, internal dialogue as a process of inference is triggered by the need to ensure safety ("Am I in danger?", "Is this situation safe?"), to be confident in my own abilities ("Will I cope with this situation?"), the need to be accepted ("Am I being treated well enough?", "Will I be accepted in this company?") or the need for comfort ("Will I be pleased, comfortable?", "Will I enjoy this event?"), etc. It's important to keep in mind. that the key questions themselves in the internal dialogue exist in the form of intentions - in the form of motivating impulses that trigger the search for appropriate answers. These questions exist as internal requests - tasks for thinking. The verbal aspect of key questions may be completely absent (approximately as it is observed in animals in the so-called intellectual behavior), or it may be reduced to the simplest forms (interjections, exclamations, etc.) due to repeated repetition in experience. The subjectivity of the internal dialogue is manifested in its "emotional coloring" - bias and bias. "What we think determines how we think!"This process of drawing conclusions is governed by the so-called "emotional logic." For example: "If I feel offended, then there is an offender," "In order to restore justice, we need to punish the offender." Or "If I feel bad, then there is someone (something) to blame for this," so "to feel good, you need to eliminate this (external) cause." These include: "If I'm jealous, then there's always a reason for it," and "If someone refuses me something, then I'm not good enough." There are countless such examples. The internal inconsistency of emotional logic, as a rule, is not realized by a person. This does not just lead to a low quality of conclusions about the difficulties he has. This leads to the fact that a person succumbs to difficulties, fails to cope with test situations, loses personal strength and becomes a hostage of such situations. The tragic insensitivity of an individual to the internal contradictions of the reasoning process is the main reason for an adult's dependence on the emotional logic of internal dialogue. It is the emotional nature of the internal dialogue that ultimately creates the appropriate mindset. In order to cope with the difficulties that characterize a certain life challenge, to accept this challenge and pass the "test" with dignity, it is necessary to consciously create an appropriate mindset for yourself. To create a mindset based on personal strength, you need to learn how to manage your own internal dialogue. Internal dialogue as a specific type of thinking should acquire parameters that exclude emotional logic. That is, our internal dialogue must "grow up."
